Simon Chapple was once heavily dependent on alcohol and for over 25 years regularly drank a bottle of wine a day and more. It affected his relationships, health and outlook on life until he made the decision to go sober and moved from being a heavy drinker to a successful sobriety coach, regularly helping over a thousand people a month to quit alcohol and go sober.
He has now charted his journey to sobriety in a new book entitled The Sober Survival Guide. The book charts his changing relationship with alcohol that took him to the point so that he no longer wanted to drink and was able to turn his life around. It is primarily designed to provide help for others wanting to make a change, providing tactics and support to help them on their journey to sobriety.
Simon says: “The Sober Survival Guide is designed to help those, like me, who want to change their relationship with alcohol. I used to believe that I couldn’t live without alcohol in my life and that once I’d had a drink I was funny to be around. But I knew I had a problem and something needed to change. The Sober Survival Guide will help you with tactics to change your mindset about alcohol. You don’t need willpower, you simply need a desire to change.”
Simon’s ten steps to sobriety:
Step one: Change your mindset about alcohol so your thinking changes from “can’t have” to “don’t want”. The way I did this was by reading sober books,
Step two: The first 30 days are the toughest. Sign up for the free 30-day Alcohol Experiment, write down your experience and start getting really curious about everything that’s happening.
Step three: Join Facebook sober groups so you’ve got support and accountability.
Step four: Arm yourself with alcohol-free alternative drinks. There’s hundreds available and it’s great fun exploring it all.
Step five: Pour away your alcoholic drinks, you don’t want them in the house.
Step six: Avoid temptation. If you’ve got any boozy nights out arranged for the first 30 days, I’d suggest avoiding them because you might be tempted to drink. When you feel strong enough, carry on as normal.
Step seven: Be passionate. Think about it like “I’m a sober rebel, I’m doing something amazing, I’m not feeling deprived.”
Step eight: Don’t worry if you slip up. It can happen, don’t beat yourself up, learn from it and move on.
Step nine: Stay engaged as the weeks and months roll by. You’ll see loads of positive changes to your body, your mind and your life. Keep reading books and keep engaged with Facebook groups.
Step ten: Find new things to do with your time. When you stop drinking you’ll have a lot more time on your hands. You’ll also feel a lot more motivated and enthusiastic to go and do stuff, and you want to fill the void. If you were going to the pub every night, you might join a bootcamp or something like that instead.
Simon is a certified alcohol coach and founder of Be Sober. His Facebook group “Be Sober” is now one of the largest online sober communities in the world, with thousands of members supporting each other while working to change their relationship with alcohol.